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Hi and Welcome back!

An extraordinary life is an ongoing creative process and the main creativity tools that we all have at our disposal are our thoughts.

Did you know that the average person has 65,000 thoughts a day? The creative power in that is astounding. The problem is that most people have the same 65,000 thoughts everyday!

Our thoughts will do one of three things for us:

1. Expand us

2. Freeze us

3. Take us down

Which do you want your thoughts to do for you? You DO have to choose because “extraordinary”doesn’t happen by accident. It requires purposeful intent, followed by relentless courageous action.

In my last blog I invited you to practice imagining, and then defining, exactly what you want in your life. I also asked you to watch your thoughts as you began this process because, as a coach, I know that the #1 reason people don’t fulfill their potential is that they succumb to habitual negative thought patterns.

Please read this next paragraph slowly and carefully:

We overcharge negative thoughts and situations with more meaning than they deserve. In reality, they are simply the clarifying catalysts that help us remember who we really are: Powerful Creators! We tend to learn by contrast. In other words, we are experiencing “this” and it makes us realize we want “that”. The job of negative thoughts and situations is to provide the exact contrasting experience we need to wakeup and choose to either expand, freeze or fall.

Kick some “But” and Embrace some “And”

It goes like this:

1. You, the desiring creator have this thought: “I want a career that provides the opportunity for me to use my strengths, contribute meaningfully, make fantastic money and have the flexibility I want as I raise my kids.”

2. Habitual negative thought, the catalyst chimes in unconsciously: “BUT…that isn’t very likely. Everybody wants this, who do you think you are? You have to sacrifice and you can’t have it all.”

3. You, the conscious, powerful creator kicking some “BUT” and having a chat with yourself: “Wait a minute. I don’t even believe that thought. Whose voice is that anyway? (Important to answer this so that you can know who you are unconsciously giving control to and stop it).  What I really believe is that this idea has come to me because I have exactly what it takes to manifest it. This negative thought has simply showed me that I need to stay awake, or I will never achieve what I know I am capable of accomplishing. The thought I am going to replace that negative one with is: Without question, I AM going to create the life I want, AND, everything I need to make it happen is available to me. I open fully, right now, to the effortless flow of everything I need to make this dream my reality.”

How does THAT thought feel? Let your feelings guide you as to whether your thoughts are helping or hindering you.

Remember, growth is about action. So, next step: As you begin to have these conversations with yourself, notice  how, when and where fear enters the scene.

Next Blog is on one of my favorite 4 letter “F” words …FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.. Another Unexpected Ally in Living An Extraordinary Life!

Please share what has worked for you to overcome negative thoughts. Also, please let me know what topics you would like me to write about that would be helpful.